Dear Annie: We’ve been ‘together’ for 4 months, but I can’t tell if we’re in a relationship

Someone wrote to advice columnist Dear Annie about uncertainty in their relationship. They've been involved with someone for four months but are unsure whether they're actually in a committed relationship. The person's partner's communication is inconsistent—sometimes reaching out daily for a week, then disappearing for several days. The letter doesn't indicate how this has been resolved.

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NJ.com / Star-LedgerLean Left· 7d ago

Dear Annie: Mixed signals after 4 months has me questioning where this is heading

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The OregonianCenter· 7d ago

Dear Annie: Is he my boyfriend, or is he just keeping me on the hook?

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MLiveLean Right· 7d ago

Dear Annie: We’ve been ‘together’ for 4 months, but I can’t tell if we’re in a relationship